I think that people are so weird about nudity & the human body. Sex is not bad, naked bodies are not bad.
If you ask me if pre-marital sex is right or wrong, I’d tell you it is neither but a matter a choice. If you ask me I’d say yes or no to it, I’d tell you it totally depends on who I am with and how strong the bonds of trust are. I do not attach any sort of stigma whatsoever to it because pre-marital or post, sex is an expression of love.
I like to think of it this way: one day you find someone who fills your soul with sunshine in its entirety and finally after trust is won, and all doubts led to the grave, you want him to know you intimately and you want to know him intimately too. That is how it is with love, isn’t it? Pulling you towards the heart of it with ruthless grace, like gravity? Just because you desire someone physically without a wedlock, does the moment become less beautiful? And if you think sex makes you impure, think again because that one act is what creates a new life. You would ask what if you fall out of love? I’d ask what if in a marriage you fall out of love? Do you drag on and on like it is nothing but a chore? Or do you let go? In reality even if you fall out of love, you get a beautiful memory to cherish.
Woody Allen nailed it when he said, “Is sex dirty? Only when it’s being done right.”
But despite all justifications that I can possibly mete out, sex is a very emotionally charged act and because of the stigma that is attached to pre-marital sex in our very confused society that tries attributing everything it can lay hands on on the culture of the subcontinent instead of paraphrasing the reasons that explain the mindset, it can lead to a psychological crisis. Often, women especially, end up drowning in a sea of irrational guilt and fear. School kids, who gather all the wrong knowledge from all the wrong sources because the hypocritical taboo wouldn’t let them ask the questions that plague their mind, end up doing it when they are least ready and it scars them emotionally. There is nothing wrong with sex, not even pre-marital sex, if you are mentally mature to accept and deal with the magnanimity of the act.
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